Breakups are almost never easy as we have all emotionally grown up since our 3 day relationships that we had in middle school. Each breakup while they might have common reasoning are different as the individuals you are in a relationship are each completely different in some ways. Getting over a breakup can take weeks, months, or even years if you do not handle it properly. There are people who are experts while others seem to enjoy wallowing in their own self-pity. The following are some different breakups and strategies you can use to get over them.
Mutual Growing Apart
The most important thing that you can do in this situation is to institute the “no contact” strategy that so many people try and fail. If you have been with this person for a long time, it can be difficult to come home and not have anyone to tell about your day. This is a time that family and friends can help fill the void that you might feel. By contacting your ex you are both leaving the door open on the relationship. People rarely remember the bad times and being nostalgic can bring you right back into a relationship you know you shouldn’t be in.
A Deal Breaker That Broke You Up
Communication is the most important thing in a relationship so voicing your deal breakers with your partner is important. One huge deal breaker is that of having kids, many men and sometimes women assume that their partner will change their mind. This can lead to rifts and even resentment if the relationship isn’t terminated. There are just some things that people do not want to do or can ruin a relationship immediately. These breakups can come as a shock especially if you haven’t been communicative enough with your partner. Getting through this breakup takes examining of your deal breakers to confirm that you were right to end the relationship.
Infidelity is one of the main problems that people break up to in today’s world. The world of social media and technology has made it easier for people to cheat in a relationship than ever before. There is a chance that both partners have engaged in this type of activity. This is generally a sign that you should probably go your separate ways as neither of you respected the relationship enough to stay loyal. In the case of one person cheating it is better to cut ties as the person wasn’t thinking about you when they were with someone else. The no contact rule stands for this one as well as many people will come saying they changed or want a second chance. Enough time has been wasted with this person already so cutting them out of your life is wise.
Long distance relationships can work but they will also take a lot of work. Frequent phone conversations and texting can lead a person to get into a routine with their significant other. After this breakup there might not be any real change in routine except no phone calls or texts. This is a time to work on yourself and fill up this time as it will be very easy to pick up the phone and call your ex. Rather than think about how to get your ex back you should be thinking about how you can improve yourself personally before diving into another relationship.
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