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Kissing

This is not a post about politics.  This is not a post about the economy, climate change or the musical Hamilton.  This is, very simply, a post about kissing.

The act of kissing goes back thousands of years, and has been celebrated, regulated, banned and repopularized more often than Laverne and her friends practiced that “whisper” technique on Fabian’s picture in Laverne and Shirley.  The practice exists across cultures, generations and demographics–hell, even Bonobos have a good snog on a frequent basis.  It’s simple in concept–pucker, plant, release–but as straightforward as it seems in concept, in actual fact a kiss is much more than just a kiss.   It is a singular phenomenon that crosses not only sexual but social and even political boundaries and holds layer upon layer of meaning.  Let’s open up and explore.

Before our lips touch even at a whisper, we are already communicating.  In what is truly a heady sensual experience, pheromone receptors and transmitters that reside around our mouth and nose are pulsating with chemistry, introducing us to the physical sphere of the other.  As we draw close, we very literally breathe each other in, nose to nose and mouth to mouth.  It is here that we are often “turned off” by the messages coming to us, which may indicate that our bodies are not compatible, or alternatively, this may be the point of no return signaled by a perfect initial mixing of selves, cuing the hunger for more.

This is why those reality shows turn me off.  Giorgio at the bar after a couple of shots sees a girl he’s attracted to, saunters over, ask her a few questions and then proceeds to polish her tonsils with his tongue.  No introduction, no chemical orientation.  We skip the point, really, and to boot, Giorgio and his friend miss out on a lot of the real fun.

Think about your first kiss for a minute.  Chances are there was at least some close face-to-face communication happening, some graduation and introduction to the other’s space before the actual event took place?  If your first kiss, like mine, was a fabulous one (horn players have great lips), then I’ll bet you there was some pre-kiss lingering involved.  But not drool.  No.  Drool does not a good first kiss make.

But back to lips.  You don’t have to look like Angelina Jolie to be able to pack a perfect pucker.  As with other things that sometimes follow energetic kissing, it’s less about the size of the boat and more about the way you row it. While this can seem like the most bewildering piece of the puzzle, I offer here a few basic admonishments that sum it all up:

1. No drool.  I mentioned this before, but it’s important.  Like Giorgio and the tonsils, saliva is something to work up to.  Pheromones to lips, lips to tongue, tongue to juices.  Skip one and it gets gross quick.

2. No fish lips.  Nothing annoys me more when watching a romantic scene in a movie than to see a sweeping seduction, confession of love, or other sigh-generating exchange followed by a first kiss that looks like someone is sucking on a lemon rind.  Lips are soft and wonderful; pursed lips are like heel skin.  And there’s no communication happening with stiff lips (more on that below).

3. Don’t kiss to your own drummer. Kissing, like sex, is a partnership.  You need to know where your partner is in order to be in the same place, and proceed from there together.  There’s not much enjoyment if both parties aren’t on the same sheet of music, after all.

Here we are, then, having drawn close together, breaths in sync, enchanted by each other’s scent, image and sounds, and our lips have come together sweetly, a first taste of the banquet.  What comes next is another important connection.  We are now crossing the boundary into something intimate, something inside ourselves.  Our mouths communicate information much different but just as important as mere words.  Passion, tenderness, need, love, curiosity–all of these steps compose the dance of the kiss. We decide together where it goes, how deep, how forceful, how leisurely or frenetic, and those ingredients, in turn, determine What Comes Next and how the rest of our bodies will engage us. Kissing, then, at its essence, is a communication.

We’ve enjoyed a meaningful interchange, but this moment, for today, has come to a close.  As our lips part, I leave you with a question, which comes from all those things I listed in the first line of this post.  Just as kissing depends upon learning about the other, at the surface first and then inward to a deeper level, should not we as people engage each others’ minds in the same way?

Photo credit: “Romeo and Juliet” by Robert Dicksee (via Wikimedia Commons)

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Thin Skinned?

On average, men’s skin is about 25% thicker than women’s. It also tends to have a rougher texture. Most significantly, women have many more nerve receptors per square inch of skin than men do.

This may explain a few things.

It likely explains why some men tend to minimize women’s discomfort. If a woman says something is painful, there are some men who dismiss her as being hypersensitive, difficult, uncooperative, lazy, or some other negative quality. After all, they don’t feel it, and their reality is the only reality they recognize.

Skin differences may also explain why many gadgets and devices (often designed by men) seem deliberately created to pinch, scrape, bump, and bruise. The guys who built these things don’t feel the pain, and never imagined that there might be something wrong.

Education can help solve these problems. Science education that includes fundamentals of human biology could make people more aware of how our bodies work. Encouraging females to pursue careers in technical fields where they will have more input into product design and manufacturing would go a long way toward improving the usability of many everyday devices.


This originally appeared at For Better – Or What?

 

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Why Your Boyfriend Must Also Be Your Best Friend

Some people might argue that a love relationship is not the same as a friendship. We might say that a love relationship is actually a lot more than a friendship because it is a friendship plus intimacy. We share with our lovers things that we might never share with our friends. However, the line between friendship and love can often be blurry and it is highly possible for a friendship to evolve into love. This is actually a very reasonable scenario, especially for those who search for a mental and emotional connection beforehand.  Even when jumping straight to a relationship, without spending time as friends, two people who want to form a loving and lasting relationship should also be not just friends, but best friends.

                When you see your boyfriend as your best friend, the dynamic of your relationship changes entirely.  A best friend is naturally someone who you trust completely, who has been with you in many important moments of life as a soothing presence, who has known you in our best and worst moments and still likes you. You are honest with your best friend, you can argue with him and still like him and love him dearly. Moreover, your best friend shares your interests, hobbies, and humor. It is very common for people, in this situation, to think about dating their best friend. In a loving relationship aimed at long-term commitment, it is almost mandatory for your boyfriend to be also your best friend.  When lovers are not reunited by friendship, but build their relationship solely on physical attraction and sexual intimacy, with no concern of connecting or forging a deeper connection, the relationship will dissipate as soon as the attraction fades, as a result of the novelty wearing off.

                If your boyfriend is also your best friend, there is a powerful link connecting you that goes beyond attraction and into a realm of more profound and lasting feelings. The person who knows your body should also know your mind and your soul. There is a sort of nakedness of the mind and soul that must be encouraged in a loving relationship because such a relationship is not only extremely intimate and build on delicate feelings but also a relationship of choice. We cannot chose who we love, but we can choose who we are in a relationship with the same as we choose our friends. When we love someone and decide to be in a relationship with them, we make a conscious decision. To make sure love will grow as a result of this decision and that it will develop further easily, we must develop the friendship side along with the process of increasing intimacy and affection.

                A boyfriend who is also your best friend will be there for you even when you will not be at your most glamorous, when you feel sad and overwhelmed by life, when you feel less beautiful and less worthy of love. He will understand your lows and encourage your highs. A boyfriend who is not your best friend will see not see your relationship as a partnership, and will want to see you only when your presence can add something to his happiness. Only a boyfriend who is also your best friend will accept that life is not always perfect and that love is a two ways street that goes through moments of ecstasy, happiness or  problems, misunderstandings, and hardships.

                With a best friend you can talk about anything that crosses your mind, without the fear of sounding weird or dumb because you trust them, you know they will not judge you and that they will feel free to talk to you as sincerely as you do with them. This creates an unmatched depth of feelings between two people. The freedom to be completely open with other human being is not something to take for granted. Imagine the amazing liberation that this openness creates in a love relationship. Moreover, it is extremely rewarding to have a boyfriend that is also your best friend because then there are a lot of things you too can share together. It would be more easy to spend time together because you will have common interests and common ideas about what is fun, interesting, or cool to do.

                No doubt, when your boyfriend is your best friend you handle differently any issue, you have other understanding of the time spent together, and you add a layer of depth, emotion, and understanding to the relationship that will ensure you two will be together for a very long time. The level of commitment present in a friendship combined with a passionate attraction to one another is the key to an amazing relationship.

Love and friendship are amazing when separated, but even more amazing when they are combined and when they work together. 

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Why Didn't My Eggs Fertilize During IVF?

One of the hardest parts of being an embryologist is having to tell a patient that, after all their hard work getting their eggs ready for retrieval, there is nothing good to report the next morning when we check the eggs for fertilization. Hopefully this never happens to you. 

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But  there are times when we have to make that unfortunate call to patients waiting to hear about fertilization. While we expect, statistically speaking, about 75% of mature eggs to fertilize, sometimes it happens where none fertilize, despite all of our best efforts in the lab. Why does this happen? And more importantly, is there anything that can be done after the fact?

Intracytoplasmic sperm injection or “ICSI”

If the eggs were naturally inseminated, meaning sperm and egg were put together in their culture drop and we allowed nature to take its course, we can tell if the sperm are still swimming well or if their motility has decreased, and also if the sperm was able to bind to the egg. If there is no sperm/egg binding, that is a sign that sperm and egg failed to recognize each other and ICSI (intra-cytoplasmic sperm injection, where we place a sperm directly into the egg) may be indicated in any subsequent cycles to avoid this in the future.

Rescue ICSI

Rescue ICSI, doing ICSI the day after retrieval on those eggs that failed to fertilize, can be employed if the eggs were naturally inseminated, sperm binding was poor, and no eggs fertilized. If there were some that did fertilize successfully, it is impossible to determine whether sperm entry was the problem or if there isn’t a sperm cell already inside the egg. We also like to see an egg that has only one polar body, telling us this egg is mature, but unfertilized (fertilized eggs typically have two polar bodies).

These two criteria give us some confidence that no sperm are already in the eggs we plan to inject. However, it is a tough call to make because we have no way of knowing if fertilization will occur once we do the rescue ICSI. In addition, we do need to freeze all of the viable blastocysts that result from a rescue ICSI cycle for use later in a frozen embryo transfer (FET). This is due to endometrial lining issues; we do not want to transfer embryos into a lining that will be sub-optimal.

If ICSI is used as the primary mode of fertilization and no eggs fertilize, rescue ICSI is not an option. Unfortunately, there are not many options if failed fertilization occurs after ICSI. You can’t inject another sperm because a sperm has already been injected.

Reasons Eggs Fail to Fertilize

Assuming the reason behind failed fertilization after ICSI is not a technical one, there are a few factors that could explain the lack of fertilization. Find out what they are here.

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Love, Life, and Logic

Set in Exotic India, Singapore, and in Central Europe, the multi-cultural novel captures the individual struggle of a young man against the seemingly unnamed, unknown, anonymous power of the universe.

 

Rohan grows up in a middle class family in a small town in Goa, India. The story develops as he scrambles for his answers. Is our life and death an end in itself, or do they have a much deeper implication in a gigantic universal process? Is each human life also someway connected to the chain of events unfolding every day in front of our eyes? We all have different thumbprints; but why? Are we all a part of big numbers game, or does each one of us really matter?

 

Chased by these and many such questions, Rohan leaves his lucrative job and his family in search of the truth. The journey gets complicated when he meets Adeline, a 23-year old vivacious girl in Vienna. Love, again? That brings him back to question his failed marriage. Is marriage an end of the road for love? Do all marriages come with an expiration date?

 

It’s the search and the road leading to his final realization that makes this book insightful and thought-provoking.

 

The book is available in both paperback and Kindle versions. Mukerji is available for online interviews and media appearances.  

 

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Natural ways to enlarge or improve your Breasts

According to a survey, many women are not comfortable with their size of breasts but do not want to undergo the knife or any surgery. No, you aren’t alone. This is the case of many women around the globe, and they prefer going for natural methods for enlarging the breasts. Though, it takes more time compared to the implantations, with continuous workouts, you can significantly notice improvements. Though there aren’t scientific proofs for supporting the methods, but it works for 98% of women and gives better results than the scientifically proven ways.

Here are some of the Natural ways to enlarge or improve your Breasts:-

 
A good posture reflects the size of the breasts, a slouchy or slump posture makes the breasts look smaller than normal. For giving an instant addition, straighten up. Stand up with a straight posture, the head should be held high, the shoulders should go back. The neck has to be straight up-down, you shouldn’t slide it. Push the chest forward while you walk and stand. Take a glimpse of yourself in the mirror, you will be surprised to see the difference with just a short trick!
 
 
There are many verbs and supplements known for causing breast growth and are available at markets and natual stores. But, be careful before you prefer any herbal supplements especially if you are having any medications.
 
3. Natural Oils and Creams
 
Additionally, there are many natural creams and oils available in the markets claiming for enlargement of breasts, they have a similar effect too. There have been many cases of successful cure with this. 
 
4. Massaging your breasts
 
Massaging your breasts for browth is a scientifically proven technique for natural enlargement of breasts too. Most of the sources recommend usages of gadgets, creams, and oils for encouraging the growth. Also, this leads to relaxation which will eventually improve the posture and mood. Feel free to try and notice the changes. It can be a mood booster too!
 
5. Proper Diet and Exercises
 
It is a myth that women build bulky muscles and are unattractive because of straining exercises. It is practically impossible for women to get huge muscles without the usage of steroids and professional body building techniques. Because women lack the productin of testosterone compared to men. They can get toned and strong muscles.
 
6. Weight Balance
 
Breasts have a primary tissue of fat. Like the rest of the body parts, the breasts also lose weight if a woman sheds fat off her body. If you are extremely thin and have smaller breasts, coonsider gaining your weight by a few pounds for enlarging the breasts. However, don’t gain weight through natural ways which will put you at the risk of obesity and numerous weight gain problems. Increase the intake moderately and then continue according to the results. 
 
 
If there are no visible changes, then shift back to your original diet. For some women, they put weight on thighs, belly, upper arms and significant areas before the breasts.

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5 Things I Wish I Knew About Relationships in College

College is like a huge party where you spend time with different characters of people, especially when it comes to relationships and love. It is a tricky game to be in college especially when you’re new to college life.

College is an energizing time with new encounters and random experience. Some want to jump appropriate in with heedless surrender, and others are riding down this new way with their hands on the brakes just on the off chance that the preparation wheels give way.
 
When in college, I needed to trust I was the one making a plunge carelessly and prepared to begin the life I was dreaming about once I got free from secondary school. Be that as it may, something in the back of my brain did not release me in full throttle, particularly with dating.
 
There are many issues I regret I knew about relationship back in college, and confidently, I can give some light to those of you still going through a college education.
 
1. Don’t go with other people’s opinion.
 
Particularly in college, college men are usually only after one thing, and they say anything to get it. It isn’t so much that men stand up lie, it’s simply that they convey what needs be a great deal more through activities than words. In this way, women are tricked by men and afterward, they end up in entangled relationships. Many go by others opinions, and in that regard, many fail to accomplish their desire to become serious in what they are supposed to do. It is a good idea to have your plan of your life while in college to avoid being driven into a ditch that you won’t get yourself out of it.
 

2. Don’t compare your love life to anyone else’s.

Lifestyle in college is unique, comparing your love with others will not earn you anything worth. You have to do yourself .If it takes you longer than your friends to find that special someone, then so be it. And if you find that special friend gets into serious relationship, life is different for everyone. Go with it.
 
Love life in college is vital especially for those in serious relationship, but it is unfortunate to compare yourself with others,college is not a place where people are the same. Others have their love expensive because they have enough cash,it is good that you get used to what you have to hide from living a crazy life.
 
 3. Calm down.
 
You are exactly where you are supposed to be. It’s natural to feel different when you see someone write or share a love quote for him or for her. You don’t have to have your love figured out; you’re in college you are lucky enough. Enjoy it. Your relationships with your friends are the most important usually in your life. So hold on tightly to them, due to this you will enjoy college life.If you are guided via your principles, you will never fall in troubles, relationship in college is not a big deal if you are sober in mind.Let leave hurry in life and proceed with moderation,
 
 4. Don’t let what you think others might think, have an effect on who you go out with.
 
What anyone else thinks, might think, or doesn’t think should never hinder you from taking a chance to love. If the relationship isn’t a bad one for you and you’re just afraid of what others think, you will end up missing out on some great experience. Take those crazy chances, because now is an excellent time to do so. In the end, others might not be thinking what you imagine them to be.
 
5. Work on yourself and keep working.
 
Being in a companionship won’t make you entire, and it won’t repair your pain. A magnificent relationship can positively upgrade these zones, in any case it won’t fill that gab entirely. Your center ought to continually being yourself and pushing across anything keeping you a long way from having what you require out of your life. The work doesn’t stop when you’re in a dating relationship. A huge measure of young ladies see remissness once they’re there.Don’t that be you?
 
If I could go back to college life, I would enlighten myself with these five things regarding relationships, and love in school. The reason behind is that this is the place many loose directions in life.

 

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9 Questions He’s Hoping You’ll Ask Him on a First Date

No. 1 is a trick question.

First dates follow a very specific set of rules that set them apart from pretty much every other form of human interaction. It’s two people who are interested in each other sexually trying to get to know one another. Basically, when the only common denominator the two of you have is “I’m trying to decide whether or not I’d like to be naked with you,” it’s understandable that things can get awkward. As such, first dates wind up being mostly small talk while you try and figure that shit out.

But there are plenty of things he wishes you’d ask him. Either because it’d be good to get off his chest, or just because they’re great talking points. And for the record, some of these are probably better left unasked, but in a perfect, judgment-free world, they’d certainly be nice to talk about.

1. Ask him, “If you could be doing anything humanly possible right now, what would it be?” It’s always good to have a few icebreaker questions on standby. Go for original, absurd and goofy, or thought-provoking. If he says, “I’d still rather be here with you!” dump his cheesy ass.
 
 
2. Ask him where he sees himself in five years. All too often, first dates are about the “now.” What do you do for a living? Where do you live? Instead, ask him where he wants to be. Most Millennials aren’t working their dream job or even working in the field they’ll end up in for most of their life, anyway.
 
 
3. Ask anything that lets him show off. Please, just … throw him a bone. Anytime he says something that sounds like a humblebrag, follow up on it. That’s what he wants. By no means let him dominate the conversation, but, when it’s his turn to talk, if he’s giving you very clear hints about things he’s proud of, do the man a favor and ask him about it.
 
 
4. Ask, “What’s your perfect date?” Secretly, he’s dying inside for you to ask this, so he can tell you. That way, you’ve got a great second date idea, and he doesn’t have to plan it.
 
 
5. Ask for major turn-offs and pet peeves. This is a question that’s potentially frightening to ask and could score you some offensive answers. But if you both share your ultimate deal breakers off the top, it could save you some time. Some of those don’t rear their heads until it’s way too late.
 
 
6. Ask him if he’s as nervous as you are. First dates are nerve-wracking for a lot of people. Unless you’re incredibly confident or a sociopath (is there a difference?), you’re probably a little freaked out. Plus, this is 2016 … there’s a good chance this is your first time even meeting your date in person. Acknowledging that can help put both of you at ease.
 
 
7. Ask if he wants to have sex. Guy can dream, right?
 
 
8. Ask him to tell his favorite joke. This is incredibly telling. Even if he doesn’t have a favorite joke, that says a lot. Maybe it’s corny or pun-based or it’s an anti-joke, but you’ll know if you’ve got similar senses of humor. And if you have to push him to tell it because he’s embarrassed, you know it’s going to be good.
 
 
9. Ask if he wants to split the check. No, chivalry isn’t dead, but who doesn’t really want to split the check deep down? What does paying for the whole meal really show? If you’ve asked him every awkward question on this list, he’s probably earned it.
 

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What are the places to meet sugar mommas in San Diego

Places to impress sugar momma in San Diego When it comes to relationships, it is hard to find our type in the current fast-paced world With the busy schedules that take all our time. Especially when your type is sugar mommas and

You need to get more out of the limited time you have. But it is easier when you go out with a reference and be prepared to hit the bulls eye. Here are some places that might help in generating more interest of your sugar momma in you in a beautiful place like San Diego. Chose the one that suits your interest or try it out one by one. You never know what might work. We’re just here to help your dreams turn to reality.

Romantic wine bars-

Wine and women go together all the way. Dimly lit and quiet cocktail/ wine bars and romantic smooth talks can take over the heart of some women and show that you really care and make your conversation alive. Places like Village Vino, Noble Experiments, Wet Stone and Sterlite are made to make your date worthwhile. They are pretty famous so you can easily find them asking around.

Scripps Park-

There is no one who can separate a romantic evening for a sunset. You’re very likely to break the ice with a setting sun at Ellen Browning Scripps Park located near La Jolla Cove. The background environment can make you a dream come true to your sugar momma.

A wine yard – When you sip along with your partner in a huge estate surrounded by the wine grapes, the sky is the limit. So, we recommend to take her to the well-known Orfila Winery where cool events are also organized along with the opportunity to spend quality time with privacy together in almost 80 acres of area.

Wine them dine them-

This sound very old formula, but it’s old for a reason and the reason is, it really works. Bertrand at Mister A’s is one of the most romantic dining places that offers the panoramic views of the city to drive your sugar momma crazy. Enjoy dinners, cocktails and planes flying out your window. What else a lady can ask for.

Open air movie theatres-

What can practically be a sexier time to spend with your sugar momma than hitting a romantic night movie at “The Drive in” with not being worried about the speakers and better quality of food. Santee and South bay are the way to go.

Palomar Hotel-

We need not explain that moments along with your sugar momma at Se Spa located at Palomar hotel can help working wonders if you have a goal to drive her crazy with your choice of place and giving a new definition to romance. The easiest place to impress and be impressed if you manage to be there at a right time.

Coast Walk La Jolla –

San Diego scores a big time in romantic places creating the ideal environment for a smooth discussion and outstanding views and that’s possibly one of the best charm to blow the mind of your sugar momma. You can get there by Torrey Pines road and make the lovely evening more lovely.

Few websites that crack the cookie-

If you interested in an adventure, there are few amazing sugar momma dating websites that might even help you in finding your type of sugar momma.

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Tips for Bi Men Dating Trans Women

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Different words can have the same meaning, even when our ears hear them differently. Women and trans women are different words and it wouldn’t be incorrect to state that both conjure different images or at least have different connotations attached to them. Nevertheless, they are not different. What we mean is a trans woman is as much of a woman as any other, even if many others don’t accept this simple truth.

For definition purpose, let it be said that trans woman is someone who was born with different genitals than a woman’s but whose gender identity is that of a woman.

Many trans gender undergo an operation to change their genitals and many don’t opt for this operation. Irrespective of whether a trans gender woman has had a genital change operation or not, she is hundred percent a woman.

Now coming to the topic at hand, that of a bisexual man dating a transgender woman, it’s hard to understand why dating a trans woman should be any different than bi sexual dating any other woman. You date a person because you like her and enjoy her company. And all this doesn’t change by the mere fact that she is a trans woman.

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Understanding any resistance in dating a trans woman or continuing an old relationship with a partner who has just declared to you that she is a transgender becomes all the more difficult if your partner has had undergone a genital change operation. After all, in her feelings, in her soul, and in her body, she is a woman, so what’s the problem?

Here are some tips to help you work out your relationship with your trans girlfriend:

  • Speak up what’s bothering you

If there’s an issue, the only way you are going to ever solve is by admitting it and speaking it out. You like your partner, she is smart, sexy, witty and great in bed, but still since she admitted the truth to you, you are feeling a little different about her, something that your partner is now beginning to notice as well.

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The first thing you must be true to yourself. Ask yourself what’s really bothering you, what has changed since that frank talk. Once you have developed a fair degree of understanding of what’s troubling you, you should speak about it with your girlfriend. As you talk, ensure that you tell her in words and actions that you like her and want the relationship between the two of you to continue and grow and that you are hundred percent committed to getting over what’s troubling you.

This will make her feel that you two are on the same team, which is what matters most, that is, you two must work as a team.

  • Speak to other people who might have been in your situation

Or better, include your partner into such meetings as well. This will show her that you mean what you said about working things out.

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  • Seek professional help

If there’s a need, you shouldn’t shy away from seeking help of a professional counselor. Again include your partner into it or at the least tell her about it, so that she has peace of mind that she is with someone who’s committed to her.  

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